We Don’t Do Sleepovers


We don’t do sleepovers with our boys.

Now, before you throw shade my way and tell me how it is awful, let me add some more fuel to the fire so you throw shade only once. We do allow our boys to have sleepovers with their adult siblings. We have four grown kids, and we allow our boys to have a sleepover at their homes or have had them watch the boys at our home when we have been gone for mini vacations.

So throw shade my way, we still don’t do sleepovers.


We have amazing friends that have offered to have our 9-year-old come over for a sleepover. When we reply that we don’t do sleepovers, we are met with questions as to why.

When we answer, it really isn’t earth-shattering. It is not due to a tragedy or anything that happened. It is not that we have trust issues because we don’t, or another reason that is hush-hush.

And yes, I did sleepovers when I was growing up. I remember the late-night dance competitions and the eating snacks until you feel like you are going to throw up, and all those experiences I had as a young girl.

For our boys, now 9 and 5, we don’t want them to do sleepovers at a friend’s house. We think for them, it is best if we have play dates that end when the sun goes down and they come home to wind down, brush their teeth, and sleep in their own beds. We prefer them to be asleep in our home where we can check on them and be there if they get up in the middle of the night, or if they have trouble falling asleep or need us to refill their water bottle.

We decided that sleepovers are a no-go for us. 

This doesn’t make us better parents or control freaks; this makes us parents that have made the best choice for our boys for now. Will this change? Maybe and maybe not.

So to my friends that ask our boys over for a sleepover, it is not YOU, it is US. We just don’t do sleepovers.

Are you a fan of sleepovers or are you a no-sleepover family?

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Cheryl Brackemyre
Hey local mommas! I grew up in Centerville, but I now live in Wilmington with my husband Tony. Together we have 6 kids, Joe, and his wife Allison, Austin, and his wife Hannah, Sydney and her husband Hayden, Andrew and his wife Lauren and our littles, Max and Eli. Did I mention we are a little nuts starting over with this parenting thing when we are 45+? We are officially adding new titles to our names in 2022- Tiki and Jeep (our version of Grandma and Grandpa). My husband and I are both ministers, and we get to work together in a local church. We were both married before and brought our families together in 2010. After a few years of marriage we felt God's leading for us to adopt. We added Max to our family in 2014 and Eli joined us in 2017, our quiver is officially full! Blending our family has been an adventure! Add some ex-spouses and two birth mommas and we have ourselves a crazy crew! Coffee is my love language. The beach is my happy place and I long to have my toes in the sand.


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