You’re Not a Bad Mom {Your Plate Is Just Full}


I had an epiphany recently.

I’ll give a little background first. Full transparency, I’m going through a really stressful time right now. I remember seeing a meme that says something along the lines of adulthood is just saying, “I just have to get through this week, and everything will calm down” until we die…

This is honestly how I feel at the moment.

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When we first found out that we had a big decision to make in such a short time, I reached out to my friends for prayers because that is all I could think to do. After that, I did what I usually do when I am overwhelmed – disappear until the storm passes. It’s my toxic trait, and I am working on it.

Well, we are officially in the middle of the chaos, and once I opened up about what we have to get done, people reached out, showed up, played with my kids, helped me around the house, and truly supported my family and me. I expected none of it. As far as I knew, it was just going to be my husband and I working hard and getting it done.

Two weeks ago, I was stressed to my core. Nothing my therapist always tells me to do was working. And my therapist is fantastic. I was just up to my head in my responsibilities and an adjustment that was not in my plans for months.

I remember this feeling of relief I had when my first friend came over. She just asked me a simple question – “What do you need?” I told her, and she proceeded to help me. It felt like 15 pounds of weight was taken off me. My brain suddenly cleared up for the first time in what felt like weeks, and I was able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I thought to myself:

“Wow, I am not a horrible mom. Why do I always think that? I just need help sometimes!”

I don’t know why we think we have to do all the things ourselves as mothers. Even if we have people in our life who support us, a lot of us still feel awful when we have to ask for help. I really don’t know why. But I want to encourage you and let you know that you are not a bad mom if you feel like you’re drowning daily. We all have days (or seasons) like that. You might just need someone to come alongside you. And you should let them in.


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